Vietnam veteran recipient of the bronze Star mother of four VA nurse of the Year discharged. 89 during routine interview for top secret security clearance US army colonel Margaret calamar revealed that she was a lesbian and began an ordeal that despite her distinguished 26-year military career resulting in her discharge of the United States Army her dismal Gardner intense media coverage stir debate all the way to the presidency ignited her activism that continues today. in the revealing autobiography rights of her decision to challenge the official policy of homosexuality in the military and of her victory and federal district court and beyond. but most much more than a book about laws and politics serious silence is about coming at age being a mother a fighting what's better about the daily orders or nursing in Vietnam about coming out and about brave soldiers life. this book was inspired by television movie Dr Kevin Meyer was portrayed by Glenn close in the award Emmy Ward winning NBC television movie survey and silence although Kevin Myers 26-year-old career as an Army nurse was interrupted her discharge she continued to care for veterans the VA hospital. she lives in wilbury Island Washington with her spouse Diane Della best and continues to speak out on civil rights issues. Chris Fisher and a war-winning playwright college professor writer watchmaker lives in the greater Seattle area.